Differentiating True Love from Fake Love

We have all heard somebody say that "I am in love, and this is true love this time."  But then, after a few months, you learn that they broke up...again.  This is the nth time you have heard her say that she was in love and that it was her true love, but she always end up getting her heart broken.  It makes you then a bit jaded whenever she comes to you, gushing about another love.  And when it is your turn to have your heart beating twice its normal rate when you see your special someone, you then wonder how you will know if what you have right now is true love or fake love.

It is fake love when...

When you first see him, did you think him perfect in every way and did you see him just as perfectly?  Because if you did, then it is a sign of a fake love.  Love does not cloud our judgment nor does it cloud our eyes.  Instead, love lets us see who that person is, and we love him, flaws and all.

If you tend to put all that he needs and wants before your very own or puts your comfort, needs, and wants before his own, then that is not true love because true love is neither selfish nor is it selfless.  It is a partnership where you learn to share.

If you want to see him daily, need to be with him constantly, and are always jealous of any girl he talks to, then that is not what true love is all about.

Lastly, fake love does not allow a compromise when you two have had a huge fight.

It is true love when...

You know it is true love when you accept all his flaws.  Who cares if he is getting bald?  You love him just the same.  Who cares if he speaks nasally?  As long as he can say I love you and means it, his voice will be music to your ears.

Remember, true love shares, not takes and takes or gives and gives.  It is a partnership, and you will know if you and him are partners when you treat each other as equals.

True love is having belief and trust that, even though you are away from each other, you have his love and he knows he has yours.

Lastly, love knows how to compromise because compromise makes a relationship work.