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The Tradition of Arranged Marriages
11-26-09
Arranged marriages are very much prevalent in India where it is the parents themselves who arrange the marriage of their child to another family's child, regardless of what their children want.  But these modern times, some parents now honor what their children want and let them decide for themselves who they want to marry, yet arranged marriages are still very much popular in some parts of India.

 

Factors that Matter in the Choices

 

There are a lot of factors that matter in the way marriages are arranged by the parents.  First and foremost, the social status of both families is considered.  Rarely will you see one marrying beneath one's caste.  Also, religion is taken into account when arranging the marriages.  Economic class is also one of the factors that matter in any arranged marriage.

 

Advantages of Arranged Marriages

 

By matching similar qualities, so to say, in their children, conflicts and disparity is avoided, thus, increasing the chances of the two to live a relatively happy life.  This also forges stronger relationships between the families of the two.  And if the couple had some problems, usually both families help the couple resolve their conflict.

 

Arranged marriages are so much more prevalent in the high caste or high class families.

 

Disadvantages of Arranged Marriage

 

Obviously, arranged marriages limit love to blossom.  Yes, they may seem perfect for each other, but if there is no attraction in the first place, then the couple are forced to settle into a comfortable albeit less romantic relationship.

 

Arranged marriages further encourage racism and discrimination.  Remember, the caste and social status of couple entering into the arranged marriage is taken into great consideration.  It is somewhat of a taboo to marry outside one's social status and race, thereby promoting discrimination and prejudice against a family of another caste or social status.

 

Dowry is being considered a curse when it comes to marriages in India.  This is the money given by the family of the girl to the family of the boy when they get married that, sometimes, the consent of the girl and the boy are no longer heard or acknowledged, but it is how much dowry that is to be given that takes precedence over their feelings.  It may sound harsh, but this is, in fact, a reality in India and a reason why so many poor women and orphan girls who cannot provide a dowry remain unmarried.  Dowries should also be honored unless the family of the girl wants to be dishonored and the girl persecuted.